You Owe Yourself the Love You Give to Others
Hello moms and dads out there! If I could I would call out each of your personal names instead, because after being mom for 21 years to three kids, I think I have forgotten who I am personally and I don’t want you to be the same. I sure do know, quite well, me as Maria, Nadia, and Thomas’ mom. I am the keeper of the schedules, the keeper of the house, the cook, the counselor, the rule enforcer, the taxi driver, and so much more. But, strip me of mom duties….hmmmm, remind me again what my passions are? I find there is something quite detrimental to a mom who throws 100% of herself aside to be what everyone else needs. Let this quote sink in.
Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have.
Here are a few things that I did do along the way...for me. I played on a women’s volleyball team on tuesday nights, and still do to this day. I love making cookie bouquets and gifting them to friends and family. I used my teaching degree not to earn money, but to teach Sunday school and direct Vacation Bible School for 14 years. I stayed involved in bible studies with other women. I volunteered at the kids’ school. I tried almost every kind of workout possible, from Zumba to yoga to crossfit. I have been on many diets, from Weight Watchers, to paleo, to keto. I have been on mission trips. I joined a worship dance troupe and danced at women’s retreats and at my church. I have gotten acrylic nails, high lights in my hair, massages, laser hair removal, and my eyebrows waxed. I went to a holistic doctor when I couldn’t get to the bottom of some health issues. I have read many books, some of my favorites are Karen Kingsbury Baxter Family series, The First Phone call from Heaven, Redeeming Love, The Sunflower, and Heaven is for Real. I indulge in retail therapy on occasion and a fancy coffee or super sweet treat.
Take care of you first, then your people. Just like in a plane crisis, put your oxygen mask on first before helping others with theirs. It’s not selfish to take care of yourself, it’s called self love. Your kids are watching you, taking care of yourself is crucial to your happiness which in turn helps you take good care of your kids. They will respond to whatever you present them with, so why not present them with the best version of yourself! Get on board and fill your cup! Dump light into your soul with whatever makes you shine!